What It’s like to Stand by Your Partner Through Hardship

When I look back on my life… I keep trying to remember a moment when my partner stood by my side when the world shut me down.

I personally don’t think I have a situation like that.  Everyone turned their back on me and let me burn, except for the few close friends I had.

However, one of my ex’s, a long time best friend of mine…

She went through a traumatic stage in her life when her employer wasn’t paying her.  She was living in the beautiful city of Irvine trying to get by on her own without her parent’s help.

Times were tough for her.  She took a risk to move away from her comfortable home with her family.  She came from an upper middle class background, but she always had a sense of independence.  She wanted to make it on her own and she didn’t want to depend on her parents to take care of her for the rest of her life.

She attempted, and as most people do, she failed.  Since her job wasn’t paying her the wages she was promised, she fell behind on all her bills.  She was getting drunk every night and faltering into becoming a hopeless mess.

She would get drunk and wouldn’t be able to face the pain she was going through, and would yell, cry, or even slash at my clothes.  (Poor Versace and DKNY Black Label shirts… I hope you R.I.P.)

I wanted to help her but I was at a point in my life when I wasn’t doing that well either.  I just got out of experiencing the real estate crash and then the stock market crash.  Wait, this was 2008.  I was right in the heart of a financial meltdown.  Everyone lost their backs and she was losing hers.

There came a point where her electricity even shut off at one point.  I lent her the money and helped her get back on her feet.  I made sure that she could at least have lights in her home, even though there wasn’t much else I could do.

I shared stories of my failures with her and let her seek solace by my side, and our friendship stayed strong.  Eventually, she recovered and is now off creating her life.  While I’m here writing away and answering questions on a website called Quora.

Originally posted on Quora.

Leonard Kim is Managing Partner at InfluenceTree. At InfluenceTree, Leonard and his team teach you how to build your (personal or business) brand, get featured in publications and growth hack your social media following.


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  1. Funny because I also tried to remember being so down and thinking about my significant other and where they are then. You know what? They were the cause of my low point. Haha. I had a few friends who were there too to help me get through. But at the end of the day, it really is just you. Glad that was over. For you and your ex as well.

  2. HELLO everyone out there*all smiles*..i’m jennifer mills and i live in Texas city,united state.i would say Testimony isn’t one until a solution has been found.Finally i wouldn’t be mistaking when i say my life is a testimony as i found the long searched light at the end of the tunnel as i got my ex back after lots of trials and scams i went through in my quest for anxious solution,not until i met doctor jamin abayomi a powerful spell caster who i will forever be thankful to for helping me out with his strong,unseen,powerful magical power to get my ex back.it all started around this time 2005 when Christmas was around the corner and my ex and i arranged a lovely schedule on how it was gonna look like.day past by and i always Dreamt on how lovely it was going to look like because i loved my ex with every drop of blood in me.There came a faithful day when he returned from the office and wouldn’t wanna talk to me instead he gets angry at all my jokes making them dry.This continued and before i knew what was happening i discovered he was in a relationship with another lady.day in and out,i wept continously searching for a solution because he met the world to me.But it seems like all hope were lost as i didn’t see any breakthrough to my problems.For 9 years all this have been going through not until i met this high school friend of mine who was faced with similar situation but got her ex back when she met with doctor jamin abayomi.i was introduced to him and he told me what i needed to do and gave me a maximum of 3days for my ex to come back to me.Believe me you,just like he said my ex came back and he’s now madly in love with me and can Bearly do anything without my presence.Are you been faced with any of this
    *want my ex back
    *want a baby
    *want your lover to tell every secret about him
    *loving you more
    *cure from any disease
    *weight loss
    *promotion in the office
    *gambling and winning
    *financial success
    *many more
    with this,i believe everyone going through same problem i Onced went through or any liken to the few listed above should put on a smiling face as your story is about to be turned into glory soon


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