Change how you feel about him or her. Dismiss the value he or she had in your life. Easy solution, right?
Not really. It’s harder than it sounds. A lot harder. Nearly impossible.
It took me six whole years to get over my ex, who I dated when I was 21. Six whole years of being miserable and wanting her back. I couldn’t create meaningful relationships with any other women, and at times, I just wished I was dead because I didn’t have her anymore. I lost focus of work when the anger went away and then ending up losing everything I had. And by everything, I mean everything.
I wish there was an easy turn key solution to your problem, but there isn’t. For me, the time I was finally able to get over her was when I broke my leg. She didn’t even attempt to visit me once. What is more tragic is that I was out with her the night it happened, and she just pushed me away.
After that, I knew she had never truly loved me, no matter what she had said. I knew that I couldn’t spend my life being in love with such a selfish person. After going through that, I was finally freed from six whole years of despair and misery, and was able to finally move forward with my life.
I wish you the best of luck in trying to solve your issue. I know exactly how hard it is, and I sure do wish that it was easier. I would never wish this kind of pain even upon my worst enemy, but I know you’ll get through it.
Originally posted on Quora.
Leonard Kim moved on from his ex. Then he wrote this book: