Change how you feel about him or her. Dismiss the value he or she had in your life. Easy solution, right?
Not really. It’s harder than it sounds. A lot harder. Nearly impossible.
It took me six whole years to get over my ex, who I dated when I was 21. Six whole years of being miserable and wanting her back. I couldn’t create meaningful relationships with any other women, and at times, I just wished I was dead because I didn’t have her anymore. I lost focus of work when the anger went away and then ending up losing everything I had. And by everything, I mean everything.
I wish there was an easy turn key solution to your problem, but there isn’t. For me, the time I was finally able to get over her was when I broke my leg. She didn’t even attempt to visit me once. What is more tragic is that I was out with her the night it happened, and she just pushed me away.
After that, I knew she had never truly loved me, no matter what she had said. I knew that I couldn’t spend my life being in love with such a selfish person. After going through that, I was finally freed from six whole years of despair and misery, and was able to finally move forward with my life.
I wish you the best of luck in trying to solve your issue. I know exactly how hard it is, and I sure do wish that it was easier. I would never wish this kind of pain even upon my worst enemy, but I know you’ll get through it.
Godspeed.
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Originally posted on Quora.
Leonard Kim moved on from his ex. Then he wrote this book: The Etiquette of Social Media: How to Connect and Respond to Others in the World of Social Media
Exactly how I’m feeling at the moment. It sucks. I wish that I could wake up and not even remember them. It has totally ripped me apart…and I don’t know who I am anymore…and worst of all…I can’t let anyone know how I feel because they see me as weak and “whats wrong with you they never deserved you!”…I realize that but it doesn’t make it one bit easier. Does it.
Nothing makes it easier. It took me a long time to get over my ex. Years upon years… So much time wasted into an endless pool of misery and what if’s.