Do I fantasize about hurting those who wronged me? I used to. I used to procure these elaborate plans to destroy the lives of the people who had wronged me. I had this huge list, and I was going to take them all down!
Then, one day, I was thinking… What’s the point?
I watched a whole series or two of that TV show Revenge, and I saw how unhappy the main character was, and how she just hid her feelings deep inside, then I thought…
I don’t really want to live this way… full of hate and deceit.
So, I threw away my list.
I tried to forgive everyone on the list. However, there were some people I just couldn’t forgive.
I feel better about myself now. I don’t feel stuck, like a victim to their actions, feeling I absolutely needed to go out of my way to plan my life to destroy them. It’s kind of relieving. It allows me to focus more on building myself, as opposed to wreaking havoc.
So… I guess I won’t anonymously be buying any interesting billboards or some other things in the future.
Originally posted on Quora.
Leonard Kim is Managing Partner at InfluenceTree. At InfluenceTree, Leonard and his team teach you how to build your (personal or business) brand, get featured in publications and growth hack your social media following.