Learn how to stop competing.
The only person you should be competing with is yourself. It isn’t even competing either. It’s focusing on becoming a better person, by going through consistent and never ending improvement.
100 watts, through a lightbulb will barely light a dim room. That same 100 watts through a laser beam will cut through steel.
The difference?
Focus.
Put your focus into bettering yourself. Not competing with others. By competing with others, you create a cap on your ability. You also enter into a world of competition. A world where you can either win and feel great, or lose and feel horrible. By focusing on bettering yourself, you eliminate your expectations of winning and the pain of defeat. Instead, you’re able to feel happiness with each stride you make, whether you win or lose.
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Originally posted on Quora.
Leonard Kim consults startups and writes books like The Etiquette of Social Media: How to Connect and Respond to Others in the World of Social Media
A little bit of positive competition with a mate can be good – as long as both people see it in a good way
It can be! Sports have positive competition.