Someone on Quora asked:
My girlfriend broke up with me because she doesn’t have any feelings towards me anymore. Can I win her back? What should I do?
She has feelings for another guy but hasn’t expressed yet. I am still her best friend, she shares her feelings with me and it hurts so bad.We were in a long distance relationship and romantic touch was very less. After we broke up, she said she didn’t feel anything when we kissed.
This was my response:
It sounds like you lost your fire. The only way to rebuild that fire would be to spark something up.
Grab a few matches, some Doritos and travel over to Joshua Tree.
Light up the doritos until the flame is big and bright. Reflect while you look into the flames and see if you can find your inner self. Find that flame that you once had that is now lost.
Now that you see where your flame once was, work on igniting that back up. Build upon your passion. Your soul. Your eloquence. Become more of who you once were. Then go find a new girlfriend. A new lover who will appreciate you for having that spark, and that flame of life.
Just don’t tell her about how you got that flame to reignite. We’ll just keep that as our little secret, okay? ;]
P.S. It’s okay if you cry. No one will judge you, but the coyotes.
Originally posted on Quora.
Leonard Kim consults startups and writes books like