On Quora someone asked:
Do you have evidence to justify it?
This was my response:
Jim Carrey means that everyone chases money, wealth, success and fame, thinking it will bring them happiness. Once they attain it, the person sits there and thinks “That’s it? That’s what all the hype was about? I don’t feel happy. I don’t feel fulfilled. I don’t feel anything.”
Then, most people start to enter a degressive stage, where they falter from the position they had once attained and start crumbling down. What we most commonly see is when celebrities turn to drugs and other paraphernalia.
As far as proof goes, when I was earning six figures and was madly in love with the woman I was living with, I felt like I hit that same peak. From there, I started to do the exact same thing. I slowly crumbled apart and lost everything I had.
What I found to be a healthy alternative to the answer of all our dreams is to become happy with who we are. To live in the moment. To stop worrying about the future or living in the past. To shed ourselves of our expectations, both of ourselves and others. To forgive the ones who wronged us, most importantly ourselves. To find peace with ourselves. Then, most importantly, to think of all the things we are grateful for and blessed to have in our lives, even as simple as the roofs over our heads, or even the ability to breathe in fresh air.
This, to me, along with many others, is the true meaning to happiness. Not the material possessions that we all feel and think we need in our lives.
Originally posted on Quora.
Leonard Kim consults startups and writes books like