Why You’re Constantly Attracting Losers

Someone on Quora asked:

Why am I constantly attracting such losers into my life? Or is the majority of society just uninspiring and self-sabotaging?

This was my response:

I’m a loser, so I suppose you’re attracting me into your life just by posting this question. I’ve lost like everything I had multiple times.

Some author by the name of Robert Kiyosaki wrote of a three step process to get what you want out of life.

Be.

Do.

Have.

Most people are under the impression that if you do what it takes, you will have what you want.

Robert Kiyosaki says otherwise.

He says that in order to have what you want, surely you must first do what it takes. However you must first become the person that has what you’re looking to have.

What does that mean?

Some people want a lot of money. Most people who have a lot of money have specialized training in an industry and are pretty good at communication. They usually are pretty well mannered.

So, in order to attract better people into your life, first you must become a better person. If you want to attract inspirational people, you must first become inspirational. Maybe you can read a few books or attain some new habits, or something like that.

We attract people who are most like ourselves into our lives. To attract great friends, you must first become a great friend.

I hope you can one day become a great friend, so many more great friends come to stand by your side.

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Originally posted on Quora.

Leonard Kim is Managing Partner at InfluenceTree. At InfluenceTree, Leonard and his team teach you how to build your (personal or business) brand, get featured in publications and growth hack your social media following.